THe MYSTERY OF FAILURE & MISTAKES

This sense of shame combined with the inevitability of setbacks when attempting difficult things explains why many people give up on their goals: they're not prepared for the mistakes and failures they'll face on their way to what they want. What's missing in many people's beliefs about success is the fact that the more challenging the goal, the more frequent and difficult setbacks will be. The larger your ambitions, the more dependent you will be on your ability to overcome and learn from your mistakes.

The only person who never makes a mistake is the man who never does anything.
It may seems odd to think about mistakes at a time because everyone seems to be busy making plans for success but its actually all part of the same process.

Making mistakes and experiencing setbacks is part of the making process of every successful achiever so you are no exception.
Anyone that tells you they don't make mistakes has just made one.

Every successful person must have in one way or the other gone things wrong over and over again before finding the right solution.

In the words of Thomas Edison, I quote " I have not failed, I have just found many ways that won't work".In other words your mistakes takes you step further to be wiser than you have been. It is a crucial step in learning, growing, developing and improving yourself.

What is the difference between champions and the average person?
The simple difference between champion achievers and average people is their ability to handle rejection and failure.

You can't travel the road to success without a puncture or two, trial, hurdles and challenges. Mistakes are often the best teachers, but when you make mistake and fail,endeavor to pick something up.
A mistake-riddled life is much richer,more interesting and more simulating than the life that has never risked or taken a stand on anything.

People are not remember by how many times the fail but by how often they succeed.
Do not fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things.
Always look at what you have left and never look at what you have lost.

Until you experience, remember, track or retain the mysteries of mistakes as feature of our inner landscape, failure will always seem to come at you from the left field.

Learning from mistakes requires three things:

**Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes.
**Having the self-confidence to admit to them.
**Being courageous about making changes.

It doesn't matter how many times you made mistakes nor how many times you may have failed, always know that there is a something to pickup when you fail.
That which you can foresee will be a boast to your success..

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THE NEVER GIVE UP SPIRIT

In life for one to actually achieve your desired aspirations, purpose and targets; it is very paramount that you as an individual will cultivate and inculcate "the never give up spirits"  This actually motivates your spirit toward pursing your dreams as you can only stay connected to purpose when you never give up on yourself. No matter how severe your plight might be, how high your hurdles could be, how heavy your mountains could be, your motivation towards overcoming is how in-depth you are able to look beyond your challenges and only visualize your victory at last.

Believing in yourself is a strong pillar that can uphold your good fate towards your heart desires, maintaining a strong believe in yourself to never give up is a perfect boast that can elevate you to your glory after your hash story

We’re destined to face pain and have everything blow up in our face. This very idea has  became very clear to me as I can’t believe I actually thought that some people never experience any major issues in their life.

We all suffer from sickness, heartbreak, death, failure and disappointment. What I’ve learned is that those who succeed accept this fact and make a decision to push through it. When things go wrong, they commit to having faith when there is no reason to do so.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably had some pretty big stuff ups. I continue to have the same and I’ve thought about quitting so many times. That was until I realized how I got where I am today. The only reason I’m still here, and breathing, is because I decided not to quit.

Quitting is the most painful form of suffering. Most of all, quitting on yourself is something you will never forgive yourself for. I know life is hard, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find an empowering way to break through all of the struggles.

 STRONG HINTS WHY  YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE UP ON  YOURSELF

1. Life is not a race

We quit on ourselves because we feel like life is a race against time. We feel like we have to achieve so much by a certain age or we’re a failure. Don’t quit because of someone else’s timeframe. Life is short in one sense of the word and very long when you live in the present moment.

You may have wanted to quit on myself many times. From a failed career, to failed businesses, to many failed  relationships. Life is tough and we are guaranteed to be in constant pain.Your ability to have a more clear understanding of life helps you overcome some various life challenges.

“The way you win the race is to accept that pain is guaranteed”

Know that with every failure that comes your way, there’s a whole bunch of other people around you going through something similar. You may not know of all the pain happening around you, but it’s everywhere. Don’t quit on yourself because you didn’t reach your goal or get what you want.

Get back up again and keep trying with the newfound perspective from your past failures.

 2. Dont over thinking everything

Quitting on yourself happens because you are over thinking everything that has transpired. If you give your brain enough time, it will find 101 reasons why you should quit. Quitting is your brain’s default response. It’s easier to give up on yourself than to keep going.

Everyone reading this post knows that success comes from struggle and hard work; not from taking the easy path. Stop your brain from going into meltdown and try these few suggestions:

– Every time you want to quit, repeat a metaphor that interrupts your brains pattern. Mine is, SPLENDID IS ME, I am made to produce splendour.”

– Go for a walk and listen to a story of struggle on your phone

– Get social and spend time with people you don’t know

These suggestions will help you to take your mind of quitting. The longer you try and solve a problem through thinking, the more likely you are to quit. Try taking breaks and blocking out times where you can think about a problem.

Sometimes there is no answer to a problem you are trying to solve other than trying something new. Don’t become obsessed with always trying to get a rock solid answer for every situation. We spend so much time in our heads and our constant negative thoughts form the foundation of our desire to quit on ourselves.

3. You’re so close

I’ve lost count us to how many times I’ve come so close to winning at life and then quit right at the last moment. Believe in yourself and know that every setback happens for a reason. We don’t always know why an event or situation has occurred, but we have to keep going.

“Success is always close by, but we have to earn it”

Nothing comes easily and it’s the struggle that gives us the right to succeed. I’m horrible when it comes to patience, although I’m getting better. I’m obsessed with having the answer right now and that’s why I forget how close I am to success.

Cowards quit right before they achieve greatness because they believe they deserve something when they haven’t earnt it.

 4. The problem with quitting

Quitting almost always leaves you with regret about what might have happened. I find that when you see something through all the way to the end, you get the opportunity to know that there is nothing more you could have done.

If you let your regrets stack up over time, you will find that you start to feel very unfulfilled. There’s no better feeling than persisting, even when it seems like there is no reason to do so. Get comfortable we never giving up. Force yourself to pursue success in life at all costs.

 5. There’s always another opportunity

I’ve wanted to quit on myself recently because I thought that I had found what I was looking for, and that because I couldn’t have it, I would have to settle for second best and the unhappiness that comes with it. After careful thought and coaching from my mentors, I reminded myself that there is always another opportunity.

What causes us to quit is the limiting belief that opportunities for success and fulfillment are not never-ending. They are. When one door closes, another door opens. What I’ve found difficult is that you never know when the next door is going to open again.

This is both annoying and awesome at the same time. When you don’t know when the next door is going to open you have to adopt the mindset of always being grateful and keeping an open mind. It adds a sense of uncertainty to our life that keeps things interesting.

6. Would your life be better if you quit?

Ask yourself this question. 99% of the time your life will never be better if you quit. Your life will be better if you keep going and push through the struggle, and pain that goes hand in hand with determination.

The feeling you get from not quitting on yourself and achieving the pinnacle of success will give you the energy to do even more incredible challenges in your life. Success breeds success.

7. The end result is worth the pain

If what you are trying to achieve in life is not worth the pain, then it’s a lousy goal in the first place. Aim for targets that make the pain worth it and light you up at the thought of winning. You’ll only quit on yourself if you go after goals you don’t really want deep down.

NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF, YOU ARE A TRUE EPITOME OF  SUCCESS

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AS DETERMINED AS MOTIVATED

 That inner power that pushes you towards taking action and towards achievement is referred as "Motivation". Its powered by desire,ambition and determination  Therefore, if they are absent, motivation is in the same vein absent too.

Sometimes, you might have the desire to get something done, or to achieve a certain goal, but if the desire and ambition are not strong enough, you lack the push, the initiative, and the willingness to take the necessary action.You are neither determined or deactivated.  In these cases, you lack of motivation and inner drive.

When there is motivation, there is initiative and direction, courage, determination,energy, and the persistence to follow your goals.

A motivated person takes action and does whatever is needed to achieve his or her goals.

Motivation becomes strong, when you have a vision, a clear mental image of what you want to achieve, and also a strong desire to manifest it. You are fully determined for accomplishment.In such a situation, motivation awakens inner strength and power, and pushes you forward, toward making your vision a reality.

Motivation can be applied to every action and goal. There can be motivation to study a foreign language, to get good grades at school, bake a cake, write a poem, take a walk every day, make more money, get a better job, buy a new house, own a business, or become a writer, a doctor or a lawyer.

Motivation is present, whenever there is a clear vision, precise knowledge of what you want to do, a strong desire, and faith in your abilities.

Motivation is one of the most important keys to success. When there is lack of motivation, you either get no results, or only mediocre ones, whereas, when there is motivation, you attain greater and better results and achievements.

Compare a student who lacks motivation and who hardly studies, to a student who is highly motivated, and who devotes many hours to his studies. Each student will get absolutely different grades.

Lack of motivation means lack of enthusiasm, zeal and ambition, whereas the possession of motivation is a sign of strong desire, energy and enthusiasm, and the willingness to do whatever it takes to achieve what one sets out to do.( DETERMINATION )

A motivated person is a happier person, more energetic, and sees the positive end result in his or her mind.

What can you do to strengthen your motivation?

1. Set a goal. If you have a major goal, it would be a good idea if you split it into several minor goals, each small goal leading to your major goal.
   
   By dividing your goal into several, smaller goals, you will find it easier to motivate yourself, since you will not feel overwhelmed by the size of your goal and the things you have to do. This will also help you feel that the goal is more feasible, and easier to accomplish.
2. Understand that finishing what you start is important. Hammer into your mind that whatever you start you have to finish. Develop the habit of going to the finish line.
3. Socialize with achievers and people with similar interests or goals, since motivation and positive attitude are contagious. Associate with motivated people, who share your interests.
4. Never procrastinate anything. Procrastination leads to laziness, and laziness leads to lack of motivation.
5. Persistence, patience and not giving up, despite failure and difficulties, keep the flame of motivation burning.
6. Read about the subjects of your interest. This will keep your enthusiasm and ambition alive.
7. Constantly, affirm and proclaim positivity to yourself that you can, and will succeed.( positivity connects possibility, its possible when you first crave a positive mindset against all odds)
8. Look at photos of things you want to get, achieve or do. This will strengthen your desire and make your subconscious mind work with you
9. Visualise  your goals as achieved, adding a feeling of happiness and joy.

10. Sucess equation: - ( 4d+2p=S)

[DECISION +

DETERMINATION +
DELLIGENCE+

DISCIPLINE +

PERSISTENCE +

PERSEVERANCE] =  SUCCESS..

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DISCOVER AND EMBRACE YOUR PURPOSE

Discover & Embrace Your purpose

All of us in one way or the other aspired to be greater in future when we were much younger. Those aspirations might have well been our dreams. God uses the innocence of childhood to reveal his purpose and destiny for our lives by putting in our hearts certain passions that act as a compass to guide us to the real thing. Most people dismiss dreams as mere fantasies and miss out on what God has for their lives - the assignment for which they were born. When you cease to dream you cease to live. I have a lot of people ask me the question, “What do I have to do to discover my purpose?” Honestly, there is no set formula to discovering your purpose. But there are some things that you must do in order to place yourself in a position where God can begin revealing his purpose for your life. I have highlighted some pointers that helped me in my discovery of purpose and I hope that they will be of help to you. 

Reflect & Pray--- Reflect on your childhood and salvage those “little” dreams you had - the things that brought you joy and ignited a passion in your heart. As you reflect, initiate an honest conversation with God. Talk about the things you are reflecting on. Ask questions and be patient to listen for the answers. God will communicate with you in different ways. Listen for his still small voice within your heart; be sensitive to what he is saying through his own Word as well as through other people.

 Document your Thoughts ---A piece of paper never forgets. Write out your reflections, however many they are. Documenting allows you to review your reflections. As you review your thoughts you begin to see the real thing hidden in your reflections; Revision matures your dream. I call this the crystallization of your dream. The process of revision is on-going because God reveals his purpose in bits and pieces. ” So Be patient and VERY consistent. Be committed to the search and embrace your dream with your whole soul..

Only purpose- driven people can rejoice in suffering because they know that they are being refined and moving towards the fulfillment of destiny. It is important for us to remember that the process lasts for a life time; and as we keep on graduating from one level to the next God gives us satisfaction; and he is able to trust us with success. Therefore, Go for it! Discover and embrace your purpose; recognize and embrace the process and God will lead you to a place called success. Remember that your life is significant and that the world needs what God has placed in you; all of creation awaits your manifestation to your Success

Watch your Crowd---I always tell people that if you want to soar like an Eagle don‟t hang out with the Crows. They are not in the same class. Get yourself around people that are like-minded and are on the journey of fulfilling their purpose and destiny. As Iron sharpens Iron, your relationship with them will sharpen and enrich you. Its important to regulate your crowd because some people will talk you out of your dream. You might experienced different huddles of discouragement and ridicule  from various angles of life, but your never-up spirit to these discouragement or ridicule determines your fate towards your smile.Always defeat your frown plight with a smile Most people that talk others out of pursuing their dreams have themselves given up, and have chosen to live an average, mediocre life. 

Recognize & Embrace the Process--when you discover and commit to your purpose, God begins to take you through a refining process- to refine you and to refine your dream. The process is not easy, but don‟t resist it. There are several marks that distinguish God‟s refining process, but these are relative to the individual. You might experience them as part of God‟s process for you or you might not. But everyone goes through the refining process regardless of its packaging. My goal is to give you some pointers that might help you. 

Isolation- Settle this fact in your mind. Not everyone can come with you on your journey. Therefore, quit trying to get people to understand your process, for the process is not for them but for you. It was part of  God‟s refining process. Isolation removes distractions that would otherwise hinder you from hearing the voice of God. 

Trials and Sufferings-- God‟s refining process includes trials and suffering.Only Purpose- driven people look for the lessons hidden in trials so that they can learn from them and be changed for the better. The process is there to build your character. Success without character can be destructive, the trials are there to build your strength as your story will soon be a glory. 

Hence, in the process its only purpose- driven people can rejoice in suffering because they know that they are being refined  and moving towards the fulfillment of destiny. It is important for us to remember that the process lasts for a life time; and as we keep on graduating from one level to the next God gives us satisfaction; and he is able to trust us with success. Therefore, Go for it! Discover and embrace your purpose; recognize and embrace the process and God will lead you to a place called success. Remember that your life is significant and that the world needs what God has placed in you; all of creation awaits your manifestation to your Success

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STRENGTH THROUGH DIFFICULTIES

Strength Through Difficulties

I have learnt one thing in this life through my own experiences: that it's not always that we get what we actually deserve. I have seen most times a man putting in everything that he has to make it through life but somewhere somehow things just fall out of place and before you realise you are looking for strength to carry on. The beauty is that once you get out of the situation believe me you will be a step stronger than you were before that and what is more important is to realise that sometimes God wants to move us to the next level but he won't do it in our present capacity or position. I learnt through one truly bitter experience that sometimes we pray and ask for things and God answers with his own conditions that will fit our new position so he wants to prepare us for the new life. Most times we fight this change even when the signs are clear that we shouldn't be where we are, either because of the pain caused or the effort put in. I have learnt that in such times we need to talk to people who are senior to us and ask God for his will. In most instances if it's Gods will it works to our betterment. Allow me to use one of Kirk Franklin's songs in the Nu Nation Project entitled "THERE IS A BLESSING IN THE STORM." Our duty at the time of the storm is to ask God to help us see the blessing in the storm. If there is anyone right now who is discouraged or going through a hard time in your pursuit of living the dream, just remember that you are not alone and that there is a blessing in the storm. GOD BLESS YOU, HE IS YOUR STRENGTH.

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BE EXCEPTIONAL !!!!

DARE TO BE EXCEPTIONAL

There are two kinds of people on the surface of the earth today. Average people and Exceptional people. Average people merely exist Exceptional people actually live Average people are products of their environment Exceptional people are products of their choices Average people are drowned by adversity Exceptional people are elevated by difficulties Average people give excuses for failure Exceptional people accept responsibility for failure Average people are driven by feelings Exceptional people are driven by purpose Average people look at the problem Exceptional people look beyond the problem and they see solution Average people focus their time and energy on the past Exceptional people invest their time and energy on the future Average people talk the talk Exceptional people do the work and not only talk the talk Average people see difficulties Exceptional people see opportunities Exceptional people have secrets, Care to know how they do things differently; they talk differently, they sleep differently, they read differently, they relate differently, they think differently, and they act differently

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ITS IN YOU

We Have It In Us

Our passport to a good and quality life is not a UK education Our ticket to a life of DISTINCTION is not a Harvard education That we are not where we ought to be today is a function of our own doing and our undoing That we are not making it like some people, is not hinged on our inability to attend Loyola Jesuit College, Obafemi Awolowo University, Covenant University, LBS, Harvard, Oxford or Cambridge University. All those are flimsy excuses We are today where our thoughts have brought us and we will be tomorrow where our thought takes us Once we can READ, WRITE and THINK; our destiny is in our hands A dog anywhere is a dog everywhere... A dog in AFRICA cannot be a god in Europe.

 We need to... • Get the right mindset and never consider the possibility of failing” • Not allow our self-limiting believes to hinder us, „cos fear will keep us from going to where we could have won • Set goals for ourselves to become the very BEST in our field • Develop a passion for excellence • Develop a reputation for speed and dependability • Develop the qualities for persistence and determination We are behind the steering wheels of our own lives. We are as good as & better than anyone we will ever meet.

There are no limitations to what we CAN DO or

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WHO IS GOING TO STOP YOU?

.WHO IS GOING TO STOP YOU?
You have the ability to accomplish much more than anyone has ever let you BELIEVE... including yourself. Most people fail in life all because of SMALL PURPOSES. The one most important quality that YOU must possess to amount to something in life is DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE: the knowledge of what you want, a burning desire to achieve great things. What makes a person EXTRA-ORDINARY is PURPOSE... the consuming desire to accomplish something beyond the ordinary.Behind every great accomplishment is a PURPOSE and not a wish. It‟s been said that a man will become as small as his controlling desire and as great as his dominant aspiration. A question to therefore ask at this point is, “Who is that YOU that you aspire to become” My advice to you is; - To determine what you want more than anything else in life, - Write down the means by which you intend to attain it, and - Permit nothing to deter you from pursuing it. People in the past have fulfilled PURPOSE; People have realized their DREAMS before; People have achieved their GOALS and surpassed it before... in history; People have MADE IT very big in life before. Anything anyone can do, you can do. And you can do it better! How far you go in life is determined largely by how far you are willing to go. The BIG QUESTION therefore is not; Who is going to let YOU? It‟s now, WHO IS GOING TO STOP YOU? NOBODY... Except YOU... can stop YOU.

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THE YOU... you SEE, IS THE YOU... you WILL BECOME

THE YOU... you SEE, IS THE YOU... you WILL BECOME

Nothing is as real as a DREAM. The world around YOU can change, but your DREAM will not change. Your DREAM is within you, no one can take it away from you.

 Positive DREAMS reaps positive results. Your future lies in your dreams. What you see is what you get. Positive DREAMS will take you to the highest heights, while negative dreams will take you to the lowest depth. Dreaming good is the first step to success in life.

Who you will be tomorrow is who you are in your dreams today. Nothing happens unless you first DREAM IT. It is then that you can dream your future into existence. It is only when you have a dream that you can make a dream come true. 

However, there is a world of difference between DREAMER and people who have DREAMS; DREAMERS are many People who have dreams are few DREAMERS may hatch up wild plans and ideas, but you never see them happening. People who have dreams may not blow their trumpet too loud, but if you watch, you will see it happen. These kinds of people are driven by their dreams. 

DREAMERS lack discipline, but People who have dreams have high level of self discipline. If YOU can DREAM IT, you can do it If YOU can see your goal in your mind, you can make it a reality. If YOU can see yourself happy, successful, healthy and loving life, you can make it happen. The CHOICE is yours. 

You can dream your future into existence

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BE OPTIMISTIC AND NEVER PESSIMISTIC

WEEP NOT... THERE'S HOPE FOR YOU

“An exit from somewhere is an entry to somewhere”. It‟s been said that for every disadvantage there is a corresponding advantage. There‟s hope in every hopeless situation... There‟s a message in every mess... There‟s promotion after every examination (Temptation)... There are opportunities in every difficulty... There‟s a great grace waiting for you in every disgrace... Probably your setback is a set up for a spectacular comeback.  You don‟t have to cry so much over your failure... it is reversible. That you mistakenly spilled the milk to the floor is not the end of life... as long as you still have the cow, you will make a better one. That you failed once..., twice..., thrice..., or many times, is not enough to label you as a failure. It‟s only the event that failed... you are not yet a failure until you admit that you are one. Too many people cry too much about missed opportunities, failed plans, and collapsed business, to the extent that they close their eyes to new and better ideas. Where you are right now is not your end stop... it is only a bus stop. Weeping may endure for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning. The very evidence that your predicament will never be permanent is the fact that you were not born with it. Everything with a beginning surely has an end. As long as you still have what God put inside you: • You will be celebrated where you were once tolerated • New doors will surely open for you • Greater opportunities abounds • Your success is guaranteed in HIM • You are sure to rise seven times higher than you fell • You will fly where you once crawled There is hope of a GLORIOUS tomorrow for us all....

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WHO YOU ARE

The Knowledge of Who You Are Delivers

“Knowing the YOU that you are is the highest height of wisdom”
 The first step to becoming the YOU you want to become is to know the YOU that you currently are.
 GREAT people have the right understanding of who they are.
The knowledge of who we are is a higher dimension of the belief that we have in our potentials. 
Issues of life, Circumstances, People & Problems might challenge our belief system, but no force on earth... can take away from us... what we know. What we know... we know. What we don‟t know... we don‟t know. What we don‟t know... we can still know. 
Whatever you know about YOU... will help YOU build your LIFE. “People are destroyed for lack of knowledge” so the holy book says.
 It‟s also said that; they that know their GOD shall be strong and do exploits. 
People who know are exploit makers,
People who know are trailblazers, 
People who know are Greater than the world around them,
People who know are envied and not pitied,
 People who know are unstoppable, No matter the matter!
 So, we can know by: Asking... Seeking more...Thinking wide...Studying... Observing. 

Belief I think might not be enough... we may need to KNOW and KNOW and KNOW Whether they like it or they don‟t like it, Whether you even believe it or you don‟t believe it yourself, YOU are a genius somehow in your own way.

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LIVING BY YOUR PERSPECTIVE DESIGN

It is Not Enough to Live By Default... Start Living By Design 

Research has shown that, there‟s something you can do better than the next ten
thousand persons.
There are times you experience sparks of exceptional brilliance in your doings,
This occasional sparks in you... can turn to habitual brilliance and greatness.
How?
First of all discover your strengths,
Master things in the area of your strengths,
Under study giants that have succeeded in the area of your strength,
Play only to your strengths always and never to your weaknesses,
Believe in your strength more than anyone can ever make you doubt it,
Determine to be the BEST in the area of your strength...
Give your strength all that it takes, and
You will be surprised at who... and what you will turn out to become.
To live by default is to live an average life with limitations from weaknesses, and to
live by design is to become great in the area of one‟s strengths through continuous and
never-ending personal mastery

GENIUS IS SELF BESTOWED... MEDIOCRITY IS SELF-INFLICTED”

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